Learning about the science behind adult romantic relationships enables you to understand yourself and your partners,past and present, better. Being congnizant of the attachment theory, and your attachment type in particular, truly does explain a few things in your life.
As for the content, the book initially contains two tests - about you and your partner, respectively, which,I believe can be filled in reciprocally to confirm your attachment type hypothesis. It then analyses all three basic types, describes (not)ideal combinations, enlists examples of ordinary couples' conflicts and offers effective communication tips to resolve them in a secure way. The authors encourage you to dodge resorting to protest behaviour, such as manipulation, threats, hostility or withdrawal. Rather, you are adviced to communicate your needs and approach your inner issues head-on with a caring attitude toward your partner.
What I enjoyed the most, is the workshop section where you can test out your knowledge acquired upon perusing this book by assessing couples' behaviour.
The book is easy to read at one sitting, suitable for anyone trying to figure things out about themselves and searching for answers.
Tento příspěvek prozrazuje důležité momenty děje, proto je skrytý, abychom vám nepokazili zážitek ze čtení.
First of all,the author debunks the myth of love as understood by contemporary society and explains what love proper entails. What we call love has nothing to do with true love. He also touches on the theme of lust and sexual cravings, which, interestingly, he claims are most vibrant until the age of 42, a seemingly random number to me. After that age, meditation shall transend and take over.
Second, he comments on the issues of freedom vs. attachment, and the issues of modern slavery. He proposes a concept of a commune,that is a society, where children belong to no one and are brought up by a community consisting of up to a few thousand people. Having witnessed similar communities in my country and the consequences of such upbringing, I am doubtful whether such a model could work worldwide.
Third, and my favourite, Osho speaks of aloneness. He urges the reader to go inward along with maintining full-scale relationships and living a normal life. At the same time, he criticises monks who deliberately choose to escape the society to stay alone completely. On the contrary, he suggests that we learn to be alone, accept aloneness in ourselves and others, thereby giving them the freedom he mentioned earlier in the book. He condemns neither religious people nor atheists and rather suggests that we do not make a single choice but accept all choices.
Finally, he concludes his writing with an epilogue, where you can find a short summary guide on how to live your life according to his teachings. I find this book really reassuring when it comes to my approach to life, but even so, I don't get this thing called love. Have to try it some time.
This is book is about so much more than mere declutterring and organising the remaining stuff you own. It urges you to reconcosider your whole lifestyle, your attidute to yourself and others, to possessions as well as money, all of which shall be the main concern of a minimalist-to-be.
Unlike other books written by two authors, you know exactly who is sharing their message in each section. It also contains a journaling exercise and tips for dos and don'ts at the end of each chapter.
What I truly appreciate is a vast array of other authors' publications so you will have plenty of further reading material on related topics.
Only after I started reading this book did I learn what the term trauma entails and that it is so much more than 'just' the physical or emotional abuse inflicted upon an individual; you might have become a witness to trauma or the event might have been so atrocious that your brain actually rewrote the memory. I also learnt a lot about brain processes and changes as explained by neuroscience which clearly show that the individual's outward behaviour is oftentimes involuntary and out of their control.
What I really appreaciate is that the author provides alternatives to standard speech therapy accompanied with medication,such as yoga, mediatation,theatre and many others.
The body does keep a score and it identifies triggers everywhere,therefore, it is absolutely vital that we call our bodily sensations and our feelings by their exact names and work with them.
By means of illustration, the book contains abundant case histories of the author's patients. The problem is however much bigger and I complete agree with the author when he says we cannot afford to leave the politics out of it. Trauma breeds further trauma and hurt people hurt people. It is thus inevitable to implement changes within society,starting with schools where providing safe environment is crucial for all children.
Despite being 300 pages long, I perused this book in just 3 days, which is unusual for me. The fact is that it's written in a logical and simple manner, directed at both scientific readers and lay public.
I highly appreciated the endnotes section which allows you to further study each and every reference in greater detail (unlike any other reference section with just a list of bibliographical sources).
The author encourages you to follow the four laws of habit formation, offering a wide range of tips from various areas,such as weight loss, learning, trainigs of all kinds and so forth. However, the strategy may be applied to any habit whatsoever as long as you are consistent. The pieces of advice I personally can take to immediately is: 1. The point is to master the habit of showing up and 2. Never miss twice. The author has created cheatsheets to help you follow his suggested steps precisely at the end of each chapter as well as on his website.
As a matter of fact, each chapter begins with an anecdote and contains scientific evidence for the respective ideas. Furthermore, simple graphs help you understand the principles of habit formation faster.
Now all you have to do is test the theory for both sustaining good habits and eliminating, or at least reducing, bad habits.
I have been tracking my sleep for quite some time but never really understood the data. Having read this book, I do,at least, the science behind it. The author answers all the questions you might have regarding sleep quality & quantity and so much more. Each fact is evidenced by hoards of scientific data either through his own lab experiments or other sleep doctors' research.
The books proceeds in a logical manner, guiding you through how your circadian rhythm works, what phases the sleep consists of and how each phase benefits you, what happens upon sleep deprivation and the consequences thereof,including risks of diseases and a shorter lifespan. The author also touches the topic of dreams,the function of which is not yet completely clear from the evolutionary point of view. The book also includes a vision for sleep in the twenty-first century as humans,especially in industrialised nations, have disrupted their sleeping habits profoundly, being the only species on Earth to knowingly rip themselves of sleep. As a matter of fact, schoolchildren are educated about health issues,such as diet,exercise, drugs,alcohol, safe sex, etc., but, sadly, not about sleep. This needs to change. Further changes must be done on a corporate and societal level. Finally,the book contains tips for healthy sleep which you may start implementing today.
While reading and once you read 'Why we sleep', I guarantee you your sleeping habits will change for the better. Mine have.
This book aims to analyze and explain the role of metaphors not only in linguistics but also in Western philosophy. The way we speak reflects our conceptual understanding of the world around us, be it physical or cultural experience. Basically,metaphors enable us to express one thing in terms of another, therefore they are more than just a mere linguistic expression, but rather expressions of human thought processes.The authors make their point by means of numerous examples before getting to the issue of absolute truth. They debunk the myth of objectivism as well as subjectivism and offer their own alternative of experientialism which claims that truth is always relative to understanding and based on a non-universal conceptual system,i.e. culture-dependent. It emphasises that meaning is always meaning to a person and understanding emerges from interaction with the environment and other people. Definitely worth reading if you are a linguist/philosopher.Číst víc
I have never read any research on Internet linguistics (or internet linguistics,if you wish) before so I may not be completely eligible to comment on its content and relevance. However, I dare say it is one of the most gripping research publications I have ever come across. The author uses plain language to explain how the English language has changed and is still changing as affected by the Internet. When you are reading,you feel like she is speaking directly to you - the language user - and she inspires you to search for subtle meanings in instant messages, social media posts and basically any text found online or offline,for that matter. I especially enjoyed the chapters on acronyms, emoji and memes, which directly reflect our current view of the world as it is. Since the written text has no sound, users have created a whole set of tools to produce melody and what she calls 'the typographical tone of voice'. After reading this book,you will never look at the online text the same way again and you will be able to identify and analyze its sociolinguistics aspects more easily. You will also start to notice your own writing subleties thereby undestanding your inner world more.
Definitely worth reading.
The human brain has a strong cognitive propensity toward order and categorisation. The author explains why organising your mind by organising the world around you allows you to operate more smoothly and effectively,thereby reducing the burden on your conscious brain. However:
- most of the stuff mentioned is already outdated in 2021 (note to self: always check the publication date when searching for a book on current data analysis)
- most of the stuff is not original research; the author paraphrases other authors and even copies their analogies and anecdotes, which is sooo apparent when you have familiarised yourself with the current happenings in the field of neuroscience.
That says it all. I had jotted down a bunch of notes as was reading so as to draft an extensive review,but it seems pointless to add anything else now. Personally, this book was not what I had expected.
You'd think that the title suggests a chronological account of how we came to the concept work, but, this is not the case. I wanted to say 'unfortunately', but it is just the perspective that the author chose to take. You'd think that the author would speculate on how humans' thinking gradually progressed as they proceeded from the work on tools to food processing, agriculture and architecture. Rather, the author tackles the issue through different topic-based chapters and only towards the conclusion of the book do we begin to understand our state of mind when it comes to economy.
The author points out that our ancestors (based on observations of present-day hunter-gatherer tribes) spent considerably less time working than we do now,thereby having more time for other activivities, such as art and procreation. Thus, in evolutionary terms, contemporary humans are as much a product of leisure as labour. The book is basically devoted to pre-industrial (through industrial) to post industrial world.
Surprisingly, the author taps into psychological aspects of work: workoholism in particular as a modern phenomenon unknown to foragers. He ponders that once viewed as physical labour, activities like garderning or fishing are now frequently considered leisure pursuits. I also appreciate mentioning and comparing slavery to exploitation of animals, both of which constitue hard labour.
Finally, the author points out the vulnerability of current jobs as being under palpable imminent threat of replacement by AI. Another pressing issue the humankind is facing is the economic question, i.e. the unsustainability of the perpetual demand for and preoccupation with economic growth, which is, inter alia, associated with a series of environmental consequences. The quintessential question thus comes to mind: how will we organise ourselves economically in the future? We cannot just go back to foraging even if we know that this is by far the most sustainable and viable option.
Overall, I find this book highly informative and though-provoking. There is only one drawback I'd like to mention, particularly that in my view some of the passages were unnecessarily detailed, i.e. tool-making, but, when I think about it, this might be just because I am not an anthropologist myself.