Smitten

A much-needed exploration of the psychology of infatuation, how to recognize it, and how to move beyond it towards a healthier experience of love.

This is a groundbreaking book on limerence – intense longing for someone. Rooted in neuroscience, this book offers practical guidance for those experiencing obsessive love and seeking emotional balance.

“Butterflies” in the stomach, intrusive thoughts, fantasies about imaginary scenarios, mood swings from euphoria to despair… aren't these all the familiar hallmarks of new love? Not quite. These are characteristics of the psychological state of “limerence”, also known as obsessive, passionate or addictive love that can become unhealthy.

Millions of people will experience limerence at some point in their life, and in this book, neuroscientist Dr Tom Bellamy explores advances in neuroscience since the term was coined in the 1970s, and sheds light on this little-understood element of the human experience. Discover:

what drives limerence
how to recognise limerence in yourself and others
how to manage the phases of addiction to another person
how to move past it to sustain longer, more fulfilling relationships.

With supportive advice about next steps, this book will help readers struggling with unwanted feelings to find emotional equilibrium.